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		<title>Comment on NZ couple seeking compensation becasue they didn&#8217;t get the opportunity to abort their disabled daughter by stemcl</title>
		<link>http://familylifenz.wordpress.com/2009/11/09/nz-couple-seeking-compensation-becasue-they-didnt-get-the-opportunity-to-abort-their-disabled-daughter/#comment-723</link>
		<dc:creator>stemcl</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Nov 2009 01:52:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I wonder if &quot;Linda&quot; has thought beyond money and her immediate situation to the impact her case, if successful, will have on not only medical personnel involved in pregnancy (will there still be people willing to be midwives, obstetricians and radiographers?) but the pressure it will put on women to have unnecessary prenatal tests (yes, you can get through pregnancy without ultrasound scans and amniocentesis) or to have abortions if their baby isn&#039;t &quot;perfect&quot;. &quot;Linda&quot; is fortunate she can talk about one day having to adapt a car for her daughter. Not every child with spina bifida lives that long! Perhaps part of the problem is the difference in help given to those under ACC (e.g. babies who are disabled because of  midwives&#039; / doctors&#039; negligence or suffer a later accident) compared to those born with genetic conditions or later suffer health problems.  I also think &quot;Linda&quot; suffers from an incredible lack of imagination and empathy if she thinks her daughter will understand why her mother would have aborted her given the choice, rather than being devastated and depressed. I think intending parents need to realise that &quot;bad things do happen to good people&quot; and while others, including the State, should be prepared to assist, nothing will undo what has happened. As Elisabeth Kubler-Ross says: &quot;You will not grow if you sit in a beautiful flower garden, but you will grow if you are sick, if you are in pain, if you experience losses, and if you do not put your head in the sand, but take the pain as a gift to you with a very, very specific purpose.&quot; http://www.ekrfoundation.org/quotes.php</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I wonder if &#8220;Linda&#8221; has thought beyond money and her immediate situation to the impact her case, if successful, will have on not only medical personnel involved in pregnancy (will there still be people willing to be midwives, obstetricians and radiographers?) but the pressure it will put on women to have unnecessary prenatal tests (yes, you can get through pregnancy without ultrasound scans and amniocentesis) or to have abortions if their baby isn&#8217;t &#8220;perfect&#8221;. &#8220;Linda&#8221; is fortunate she can talk about one day having to adapt a car for her daughter. Not every child with spina bifida lives that long! Perhaps part of the problem is the difference in help given to those under ACC (e.g. babies who are disabled because of  midwives&#8217; / doctors&#8217; negligence or suffer a later accident) compared to those born with genetic conditions or later suffer health problems.  I also think &#8220;Linda&#8221; suffers from an incredible lack of imagination and empathy if she thinks her daughter will understand why her mother would have aborted her given the choice, rather than being devastated and depressed. I think intending parents need to realise that &#8220;bad things do happen to good people&#8221; and while others, including the State, should be prepared to assist, nothing will undo what has happened. As Elisabeth Kubler-Ross says: &#8220;You will not grow if you sit in a beautiful flower garden, but you will grow if you are sick, if you are in pain, if you experience losses, and if you do not put your head in the sand, but take the pain as a gift to you with a very, very specific purpose.&#8221; <a href="http://www.ekrfoundation.org/quotes.php" rel="nofollow">http://www.ekrfoundation.org/quotes.php</a></p>
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		<title>Comment on Eugenic search and destroy programme for Down syndrome proposed for NZ by stemcl</title>
		<link>http://familylifenz.wordpress.com/2009/11/09/eugenic-search-and-destroy-programme-for-down-syndrome-proposed-for-nz/#comment-722</link>
		<dc:creator>stemcl</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Nov 2009 00:56:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I would suggest that those most affected are the babies with Down Syndrome who will have their lives cut short in the womb because of &quot;quality improvement&quot;. What &quot;quality&quot; are we improving? Obviously not the quality of the baby&#039;s life. Certainly not the quality of lives of those born, both adults and children who already have Down syndrome or their families who often have to fight for the appropriate level of assistance for their children. On one hand as a society we are encouraged to &quot;be inclusive&quot; of our children with disabilities when it comes to education, sport, social activities, work, living arrangements etc; that everyone is special! But on the other hand we are told their lives are not worth living if they can be screened out before birth. This is blatant eugenics, not to mention discrimination on the basis of age. After all if the baby misses being &quot;quality controlled&quot; before birth, why not do it after birth as infanticide is a lot safer physically for the mother - of course psychologically it could be damaging for her, but then so is abortion! One quality most people with Down syndrome possess is the ability to accept people for who they are. I think we need more people who are capable of being so accepting. &quot;Pregnancies being lost unnecessarily&quot; is a euphemism for saying the aborted baby didn&#039;t have Down syndrome. But why is it &quot;necessary&quot; to kill any baby in the womb, when you would be tried for murder if you killed the same baby a few months after birth. I know several people with Down syndrome. They are all unique individuals with different personalities and abilities. I and several other people I know have adopted babies with Down syndrome and while life can at times be stressful (and reading news items like this doesn&#039;t help) raising these children is a rewarding experience.  (Originally posted on TV 3 website which has the same story as the TV One link, but with an opportunity to post comments.)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I would suggest that those most affected are the babies with Down Syndrome who will have their lives cut short in the womb because of &#8220;quality improvement&#8221;. What &#8220;quality&#8221; are we improving? Obviously not the quality of the baby&#8217;s life. Certainly not the quality of lives of those born, both adults and children who already have Down syndrome or their families who often have to fight for the appropriate level of assistance for their children. On one hand as a society we are encouraged to &#8220;be inclusive&#8221; of our children with disabilities when it comes to education, sport, social activities, work, living arrangements etc; that everyone is special! But on the other hand we are told their lives are not worth living if they can be screened out before birth. This is blatant eugenics, not to mention discrimination on the basis of age. After all if the baby misses being &#8220;quality controlled&#8221; before birth, why not do it after birth as infanticide is a lot safer physically for the mother &#8211; of course psychologically it could be damaging for her, but then so is abortion! One quality most people with Down syndrome possess is the ability to accept people for who they are. I think we need more people who are capable of being so accepting. &#8220;Pregnancies being lost unnecessarily&#8221; is a euphemism for saying the aborted baby didn&#8217;t have Down syndrome. But why is it &#8220;necessary&#8221; to kill any baby in the womb, when you would be tried for murder if you killed the same baby a few months after birth. I know several people with Down syndrome. They are all unique individuals with different personalities and abilities. I and several other people I know have adopted babies with Down syndrome and while life can at times be stressful (and reading news items like this doesn&#8217;t help) raising these children is a rewarding experience.  (Originally posted on TV 3 website which has the same story as the TV One link, but with an opportunity to post comments.)</p>
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		<title>Comment on LIFE MATTERS: The evil whose name must never be spoken by Brendan Malone</title>
		<link>http://familylifenz.wordpress.com/2009/11/06/lm-fri/#comment-720</link>
		<dc:creator>Brendan Malone</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Nov 2009 21:16:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>tj,

The same problem exists if you are trying to justify abortion on the grounds of motive though.

If someone claims to believe that abortion is simply a matter of personal choice, and then thinks that it is not okay to choose abortion under certain circumstances, then they don&#039;t actually believe that abortion should be a matter of personal autonomy - instead they think that it should only be available in certain situations.

But, here comes the problem, the only real reason that you could think that abortion should be limited to only certain motivations is if you instinctively know that abortion is actually wrong, but you are willing to accept recourse to that wrong under certain situations.

I mean, if it&#039;s okay for a 17 year old teen to have an abortion, then why is it wrong for a 28 year old married women to have an abortion?

Or if it is okay for a poor person to have an abortion, then why is it wrong for a rich person to have one?

Etc, etc</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>tj,</p>
<p>The same problem exists if you are trying to justify abortion on the grounds of motive though.</p>
<p>If someone claims to believe that abortion is simply a matter of personal choice, and then thinks that it is not okay to choose abortion under certain circumstances, then they don&#8217;t actually believe that abortion should be a matter of personal autonomy &#8211; instead they think that it should only be available in certain situations.</p>
<p>But, here comes the problem, the only real reason that you could think that abortion should be limited to only certain motivations is if you instinctively know that abortion is actually wrong, but you are willing to accept recourse to that wrong under certain situations.</p>
<p>I mean, if it&#8217;s okay for a 17 year old teen to have an abortion, then why is it wrong for a 28 year old married women to have an abortion?</p>
<p>Or if it is okay for a poor person to have an abortion, then why is it wrong for a rich person to have one?</p>
<p>Etc, etc</p>
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		<title>Comment on LIFE MATTERS: The evil whose name must never be spoken by tjjjohnson</title>
		<link>http://familylifenz.wordpress.com/2009/11/06/lm-fri/#comment-719</link>
		<dc:creator>tjjjohnson</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Nov 2009 00:39:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Perhaps the callers who expressed opinions along the line of “I’m pro-choice, and I support a woman’s right to have an abortion, but I think we need to do something to reduce the high number of abortions happening in New Zealand” were not seeing it as a black and white situation.

People could potentially believe that it is right in some situation and not others. Therefore the high number of abortions might be seen as an indicator that women are having abortions for the wrong reasons. With those sort of beliefs it isn&#039;t such an incongruous position. You&#039;d need to go right back to explaining why it is a black and white situation to show the errors in thinking.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Perhaps the callers who expressed opinions along the line of “I’m pro-choice, and I support a woman’s right to have an abortion, but I think we need to do something to reduce the high number of abortions happening in New Zealand” were not seeing it as a black and white situation.</p>
<p>People could potentially believe that it is right in some situation and not others. Therefore the high number of abortions might be seen as an indicator that women are having abortions for the wrong reasons. With those sort of beliefs it isn&#8217;t such an incongruous position. You&#8217;d need to go right back to explaining why it is a black and white situation to show the errors in thinking.</p>
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		<title>Comment on LIFE MATTERS: The evil whose name must never be spoken by stemcl</title>
		<link>http://familylifenz.wordpress.com/2009/11/06/lm-fri/#comment-718</link>
		<dc:creator>stemcl</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Nov 2009 22:37:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>What is also frustrating is that those of us in the pro-life movement have known for years that abortion affects mental health, and I suspect that those who work in mental health know it as well. Years ago I was manning a stand for our local SPUC branch at a health expo and was going around the other stands with leaflets. A woman at the stand for the local psychiatric unit commented  that they always asked women patients if they have had an abortion. I think she also mentioned it can affect men as well.

As for contraceptives causing strokes, in the 1970s I was told by an aunt, who was a retired hospital matron, that when women died from a blood clot caused by oral contraceptives it was attributed to another cause when documented.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What is also frustrating is that those of us in the pro-life movement have known for years that abortion affects mental health, and I suspect that those who work in mental health know it as well. Years ago I was manning a stand for our local SPUC branch at a health expo and was going around the other stands with leaflets. A woman at the stand for the local psychiatric unit commented  that they always asked women patients if they have had an abortion. I think she also mentioned it can affect men as well.</p>
<p>As for contraceptives causing strokes, in the 1970s I was told by an aunt, who was a retired hospital matron, that when women died from a blood clot caused by oral contraceptives it was attributed to another cause when documented.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Update on pro-life efforts to fix Obama healthcare by Brendan Malone</title>
		<link>http://familylifenz.wordpress.com/2009/11/04/update-on-pro-life-efforts-to-fix-obama-healthcare/#comment-717</link>
		<dc:creator>Brendan Malone</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Nov 2009 19:40:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you shalimamma</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you shalimamma</p>
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		<title>Comment on Update on pro-life efforts to fix Obama healthcare by shalimamma</title>
		<link>http://familylifenz.wordpress.com/2009/11/04/update-on-pro-life-efforts-to-fix-obama-healthcare/#comment-715</link>
		<dc:creator>shalimamma</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:25:55 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>What an amazing blog!  I will be linking you on my site, LifeVictorious.com!  Keep up the good work!!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What an amazing blog!  I will be linking you on my site, LifeVictorious.com!  Keep up the good work!!!</p>
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		<title>Comment on A mother and public health student offers ten reasons not to vaccinate children with HPV by Brendan Malone</title>
		<link>http://familylifenz.wordpress.com/2009/10/27/a-mother-and-public-health-student-offers-ten-reasons-not-to-vaccinate-children-with-hpv/#comment-713</link>
		<dc:creator>Brendan Malone</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:13:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;em&gt;&quot;The ONLY way to protect your children, and potential future grandchildren, is to vaccinate your kids.&quot;&lt;/em&gt;

Hi mzhuz,

It isn&#039;t actually that simple at all.

Firstly, the Gardasil vaccine is not a well tested product, and there is no long term data about its safety or efficacy.

In fact, some research is now suggesting that immunity actually wanes quite early after vaccination, and that a booster shot may actually be required.

Secondly, Gardasil is associated with a higher rate of adverse effects than other vaccines are.

Thirdly, Gardasil does NOT protect against all cervical cancer, instead it is designed to protect against the two strands of HPV which cause 70% of cervical cancer, but this still leaves a woman open to the other strands which cause 30% of cervical cancers.

I recommend that you check out the following Q&amp;A guide to Gardasil:
http://www.fli.org.nz/LinkClick.aspx?fileticket=9c3qirx1EMU%3d&amp;tabid=2163&amp;language=en-US</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>&#8220;The ONLY way to protect your children, and potential future grandchildren, is to vaccinate your kids.&#8221;</em></p>
<p>Hi mzhuz,</p>
<p>It isn&#8217;t actually that simple at all.</p>
<p>Firstly, the Gardasil vaccine is not a well tested product, and there is no long term data about its safety or efficacy.</p>
<p>In fact, some research is now suggesting that immunity actually wanes quite early after vaccination, and that a booster shot may actually be required.</p>
<p>Secondly, Gardasil is associated with a higher rate of adverse effects than other vaccines are.</p>
<p>Thirdly, Gardasil does NOT protect against all cervical cancer, instead it is designed to protect against the two strands of HPV which cause 70% of cervical cancer, but this still leaves a woman open to the other strands which cause 30% of cervical cancers.</p>
<p>I recommend that you check out the following Q&amp;A guide to Gardasil:<br />
<a href="http://www.fli.org.nz/LinkClick.aspx?fileticket=9c3qirx1EMU%3d&amp;tabid=2163&amp;language=en-US" rel="nofollow">http://www.fli.org.nz/LinkClick.aspx?fileticket=9c3qirx1EMU%3d&amp;tabid=2163&amp;language=en-US</a></p>
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		<title>Comment on A mother and public health student offers ten reasons not to vaccinate children with HPV by mzhuz</title>
		<link>http://familylifenz.wordpress.com/2009/10/27/a-mother-and-public-health-student-offers-ten-reasons-not-to-vaccinate-children-with-hpv/#comment-708</link>
		<dc:creator>mzhuz</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Oct 2009 03:57:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>This is ignorant thinking at it&#039;s best.  To be that unrealistic about today&#039;s world and the relationships between people is astonishing to me.  As an HPV patient, Cervical Cancer survivor, and a woman, who at the age of 24 had a radical hysterectomy and will NEVER be able to create my own family, I will preach till the day I die that regardless of how you raise your children and speak of sexual health and responsibility, it only takes ONE time, ONE partner to contract this disease.  It doesn&#039;t matter if you&#039;re in a committed relationship, married, or playing the field, if you have an intimate relationship (P.S. It does not take full intercourse to contract), you risk your life.  

Just so no one thinks I was a wild child and it caught up with me, I was raised in the church, &quot;wait till your old enough to participate in adult activities&quot;, and was spoken to at the age of 14 about sex.  I did wait until I was 19, and contracted HPV from my first partner.  2 years later, I was diagnosed with cervical cancer.  Had this vaccination been around when I was a preteen, it could have saved my health, my life, and my future.  Now, as an advocate for the education of HPV and cervical cancer, I speak with parents all the time who tell me that while they&#039;d like to think they were open with their children about sex and shared with them the necessity of being responsible and waiting (waiting doesn&#039;t stop this disease), they hadn&#039;t done it, or hadn&#039;t gotten their point across.  

In this day, every child, regardless of their family or upbringing, feels a need to be loved and receive more attention.  They get that through friends, boyfriends, and &quot;teen love.&quot;  I have 3 siblings in their early teen years and I hear it from them all the time.  

The ONLY way to protect your children, and potential future grandchildren, is to vaccinate your kids.  Are the minute side affects that much more important to protect your children from than SAVING THEIR LIVES??  If you don&#039;t want to protect your children, you shouldn&#039;t have been parents.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is ignorant thinking at it&#8217;s best.  To be that unrealistic about today&#8217;s world and the relationships between people is astonishing to me.  As an HPV patient, Cervical Cancer survivor, and a woman, who at the age of 24 had a radical hysterectomy and will NEVER be able to create my own family, I will preach till the day I die that regardless of how you raise your children and speak of sexual health and responsibility, it only takes ONE time, ONE partner to contract this disease.  It doesn&#8217;t matter if you&#8217;re in a committed relationship, married, or playing the field, if you have an intimate relationship (P.S. It does not take full intercourse to contract), you risk your life.  </p>
<p>Just so no one thinks I was a wild child and it caught up with me, I was raised in the church, &#8220;wait till your old enough to participate in adult activities&#8221;, and was spoken to at the age of 14 about sex.  I did wait until I was 19, and contracted HPV from my first partner.  2 years later, I was diagnosed with cervical cancer.  Had this vaccination been around when I was a preteen, it could have saved my health, my life, and my future.  Now, as an advocate for the education of HPV and cervical cancer, I speak with parents all the time who tell me that while they&#8217;d like to think they were open with their children about sex and shared with them the necessity of being responsible and waiting (waiting doesn&#8217;t stop this disease), they hadn&#8217;t done it, or hadn&#8217;t gotten their point across.  </p>
<p>In this day, every child, regardless of their family or upbringing, feels a need to be loved and receive more attention.  They get that through friends, boyfriends, and &#8220;teen love.&#8221;  I have 3 siblings in their early teen years and I hear it from them all the time.  </p>
<p>The ONLY way to protect your children, and potential future grandchildren, is to vaccinate your kids.  Are the minute side affects that much more important to protect your children from than SAVING THEIR LIVES??  If you don&#8217;t want to protect your children, you shouldn&#8217;t have been parents.</p>
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		<title>Comment on African Archbishop: Workers from Western NGOs &#8220;Hang Around with Boys&#8221; to Introduce Them to Homosexuality by Brendan Malone</title>
		<link>http://familylifenz.wordpress.com/2009/10/25/african-archbishop-workers-from-western-ngos-hang-around-with-boys-to-introduce-them-to-homosexuality/#comment-705</link>
		<dc:creator>Brendan Malone</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Oct 2009 04:42:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hey Lucy, always good to get informed comment from the front lines!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hey Lucy, always good to get informed comment from the front lines!</p>
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